January 4th, 2007 (09:42 pm)
current mood: contemplative
current song: The unsilence of silence
As many, or maybe most, of you know Gretchen and I have had some rocky times over the last couple of years as we have both continued to grow and mature in ways that were unfathomable when we first met one another. We have, over almost seven years, weathered some amazing changes together. Through the years together we have both grown and changed so much from who we were in 2000 when we started our relationship. We have traversed many cross roads and forks in the path and come out together on the other side with a stronger commitment to the both of ourselves and to the couple that we were.
Now we have approached another cross roads, but this time we are being drawn in conflicting directions that are not at all compromisable with one another. We have with the new year, started the process of separating our indivdual selves from the Gretchen-and-Kirsti as a couple. This has been long in coming, as many of you may have come to conclude, however, this is a time in which we both feel that it is more important to follow the dreams of our hearts and the callings of our souls than to keep a relationship together that now holds us back from how we both wish to continue forward. This is something that we both want, we both are conscious of our choices and we are approaching our remaining connection with the focus on creating a deep and long lasting friendship.
Though I will not go into great details here, please feel free if you have questions to ask either myself or Gretchen openly about all of this. We both would prefer honest questions to rumors and drama. For the time being we are continuing to share the house and plan to continue for some time as we both get a sense of where we are going from here. For myself the first step is completing my BA at Naropa. From there I have ideas and dreams of what I'd like to do, including settling down with people with whom I can make a family with a focus on having a child some time in the three to five year range. I'm still doing a lot of work internally on this and may remain fairly silent on this subject for some time as I focus in on what I need to do to be "ready" to be a mother. Gretchen is following her own calling and path. It is up to her to share so I will not say much about it all. It is hard, sad and beautiful to watch her growing as she is. It is hard, sad, and beautiful watching myself change.
Letting go isn't easy and both of us are learning how to let go of something that has been a most precious treasure to be caretakers of. Thank you all for being understanding during our renovations!